HDF 100 â€“WTL 5
2 1/2 pages minimum (1 inch margins, double-spaced, 12 point font)
For this assignment, you will be considering the influence of expectations on
relationships with significant others. Expectations play a large part in the success or failure of relationships. Relationships are more successful when each partner has really considered what their most important expectations are in a relationship and when the couple openly discusses them. To maximize the possibility of success, each partner should be willing to meet each others reasonable and most important expectations.
Often times, when these go unspoken, problems arise. Therefore it is important to go into relationships with a clear understanding of your own expectations. These will evolve from the time you start dating as you gather experiences in a relationship and/or move from one significant relationship to another. Couples should be able to openly and honestly talk about expectations as they move towards commitment and/or marriage.
Write a paper that addresses the following items related to expectations for a relationship. You should consider each of the questions and subsections of the following areas in your paper.
1. What are some expectations that people sometimes have in relationships that might be considered unreasonable? What are some possible reasons that some people do not express their expectations directly, even when they are aware that they have them ? What are some examples of expectations of which people might be un aware, but they become more clear as they experience time and
various interactions with a person? (1/2 page minimum)
2. In terms of expectations in relationships, there are some of which we are all very well aware. At this point in your life, what are some clear expectations you have in terms of some of the following issues that present themselves in relationships? (2 pages)
a. Values: Primary values you seek in a committed partner
b. Time: How much should be spent together? How much time spent apart and/ or doing things with other people? How do you feel about your partner having friends of the opposite sex and what do you think is appropriate in terms of your partner spending time with them?
c. Sex: Who is responsible for deciding to use contraceptives, and why? What is the best way to approach talking to partners about using
contraception/birth control? What is the best way to approach protecting your self from sexually transmitted infections? How do you discuss this with new
partners? If you or your partner became pregnant unexpectedly in your
relationship (The pregancy concern is not likely not relevant in gay and les bian relationships, so if you identify as gay or lesbian you can skip this ques tion or answer it hypothetically) would you expect to marry and raise the child together? If not, how would you resolve the pregnancy and/or issues about raising the child?
d. What are your views on use of substances such as alcohol, cannabis or other drugs? What would make this a problem in your relationship?
e. Finances: who should be the main financial provider for the household? should it be more one person or the other, or shared equally? How will you manage money (spending v saving)? If you were to marry, would you expect to have joint or separate checking/savings accounts? How should decisions about large financial expenditures be handled?
f. If you and your partner encountered severe problems in your relationship, how would you attempt to resolve them? What are your beliefs about divorce? Under what circumstances would you consider divorce as your only option?
3. What are some â€œdeal breakersâ€ in terms of another personâ€™s behavior (negative, toxic) in a relationship? (Discuss at least four things that would cause you to end a relationship.) While many people can identify these, what are some
reasons that a person would not maintain a bottom line and continue to â€œput upâ€ with toxic behavior from another person?